Stop dating married men
Right more quickly — because you are self-sufficient, confident, level-headed, and discerning — precisely the sort of woman Mr. Sadly, the healing rarely occurs, precisely because our partners are limited and damaged in the exact ways that our parents were, making them unable to give us any more or any better than our parents did.And here’s the tragedy, because we desperately need to heal, we don’t want to give that partner up–doing so would feel like giving up any hope of healing.No, it's actually because I'm so psyched that he's not some knuckle-dragging moron still carting around janky, old notions about vaginas being gross and strange or hard to figure out because (1) they're not, (2) they're not, and (3) they're not. And if you still have doubts about whether or not your vagina is cunnilingus-worthy, I still have phone numbers for a few exes who frankly have really good taste. The wonderful thing about dating is that we attract what we need to work on in ourselves.
Not because he's some kind of rare desert gem, but because seriously, the sooner you can acknowledge your junk is a goddamn miracle, the more guys will do the same (it's like for cunnilingus). Blow jobs were so common that we had several terms for them (road head, head, dome, etc.), but cunnilingus never even came up in conversation. It was hardly ever shown in TV and movies, they certainly didn't bring it up in sex ed, and what little info I did know about it (mostly via overhearing idiotic conversations had by 13-year-old boys in our class) was that vaginas smell like fish (Yes, because the penis smells like a kingdom full of Diptyque candles.OK.) and you should pretty much keep your legs closed for your whole life unless penetration was happening.It's actually a great litmus test: Ask him to go down on you, and if he says he "doesn't do that," you'll know he's a pathetic loser who claims to be into you yet he is scared of a truly kickass part of you.There are few things in my book that are cooler than a guy who loves going down on women.
It didn't matter how smart or funny or hot you were; if you didn't give ~*g Re At*~ blow jobs, what was the point?