A lot of other dating gurus out there can't explain this stuff in simple and easy terms.They want the process of dating hot women cloaked in mystery and so called "advanced seduction techniques." Plus, if you don't have the ,000 to ,000 to plunk down for a "bootcamp" or "in field" training, you're not even in their game. Even more frightening than this is afford to pay the staggering amount of money needed to get their coaching, there's no guarantee of results.You may learn that a divorce will cost him a lot more money in alimony than he wants to pay.You may learn that the status quo is fine and that a divorce may hurt the amount of time he has with the kids.Most books written on attraction are created by "Ph Ds" - meaning big brains, but little success in their own in getting a high quality woman into their lives.Besides, most all of them only talk about how to handle a relationship after you've already found a woman - NOT how to get a girlfriend and get her hot for you - and ONLY you.And if marriage is your endgame and he’s not playing, it’s time to walk.
He wants a divorce from her and she’s a massive pain to him, but he just won’t take the steps to begin his divorce. I just want him to take the steps towards being legally separated from her.In your case, a divorce would free him officially from his ex and allow him to start over with a clean slate.So that begs the question: why would a man who has been separated for three years from the wife who cheated on him NOT want to divorce her? Which is why your question is better directed towards HIM than yours truly.Or you may just realize that he’s a doormat – a man who is willing to pay the bills for his cheating ex-wife and play entirely on her terms.No matter what you learn, Caitlin, at least you’ll get some clarity moving forward.
And while I haven’t changed my position one bit, it’s always stuck in my craw that I couldn’t get more people to see his point of view. Because while your situation is similar, there’s a very important distinction that tilts my sympathies in your favor: There’s absolutely nothing preventing your boyfriend from getting a divorce.